Dear Concerned Mom:

I want to applaud you for wanting to do right by your daughter. It is not always easy to identify the right course of action or the most appropriate steps when you think your child has attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD). It can be lonely and confusing. But on the other hand, I truly believe in relying on parental instincts. And, in your case, your daughter is telling you (very clearly it seems) that she is struggling at home and at school.

I must be honest and say that I grappled with answering this question since I can’t truly say whether your daughter has ADHD. But what I can say is if you are concerned about taking the right path please consider getting a second opinion.

People don’t hesitate to do this when presented with a serious physical issue such as a course of treatment or surgery. It shouldn’t be any different for parents considering ADHD treatments for their child. And if you do decide to go for a second opinion or even return to your original doctor, perhaps your daughter’s father can join as well. With all of you present, everyone’s questions and concerns can be fully addressed.

Good Luck!

Organization guru Leslie Josel, of Order Out of Chaos, will answer questions from ADDitude readers about everything from paper clutter to disaster-zone bedrooms and from mastering to-do lists to arriving on time every time.

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